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Hitch · Anonymous

realize that may be a dumb question, since you probably never would have sought this place out or be posting here if you were all shiny happy, bit seriously I'm at that point where I've got my suicide plan and I just can't stand it anymore.

I've tried 4 different therapists, a hypnotists, also, Prozac, paxill, buspar, cepachalin, effervexin, and valium. Every year/day I've always ignorantly told myself, tomorrow things may change, yet year after year goes by in a blur and I just get older. High School's gone, my teens, childhood, I'm a few months away from my 20's being gone, it's not going to change.

I have read some other posts and see some of you have it worse than me, but I just don't see myself doing this for another 50yrs or more, everyday I just wanna lay in bed, I excersise off and on, (alot more off lately) I have no job, I've flunked out of 4 different colleges, even tho I have a 130 I.Q. (I'm just to lazy to study).

I've been "in love" with a girl for the past 5yrs who I hardly ever even talked to and who I hated anyway, just the old moth to a flame thing, but if I wasn't miserable over her it'd just be someone else, like the one's before her. I can't say about there being a god, really I don't believe there is, I'm a little scared of going somewhere worse, but I don't know, anymore, I don't care. Is there anything any of you have had success with that I haven't tried?!?!?!?!?!

esp · Anonymous

hi there, seems like I'm the same age as you. Sounds like you have depression, you just have to realise that a symptom of depression is to think thoughts like that. I had the same problem thinking things like things will never get better for me, there's noone out there for me. You just have to challenge the thoughts and realise its irrational even though it feels real. Its really helping me to start tackling my fears one by one even though I have a long way to go. And to stop blaming yourself for being this way, its not your fault. An anxiety disorder causes you to think bad things about yourself but it doesn't mean its real. I've also tried many forms of therapy in the past 10 years which didn't work for me but you just have to realise you're worth it and keep trying. You deserve to go out there and enjoy life like everyone else! Hope this helps, if it doesn't, disregard.

Bobby · Calm Regular Reputation: 0 Joined: 17 Feb 2007 Posts: 57

I'm also in love with a girl but I suffer from something called "Love Shyness".

According to the study men with love shyness tend to be less sucessful in their careers due to their anxiety. It seems like a vicious cycle to me: Less confidence -> less money -> less confidence.

Josh · Posted: Wed March 14, 2007 Post subject:

I've beat SA I think. What has helped me is to avoid less. Anytime you catch yourself trying to avoid something, stop yourself from avoiding. Avoidance is not a good strategy in the long term.

Read this article:
Experiental avoidance doesn't work
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zamfishcher · Posted: Tue March 27, 2007 Post subject:

don't give up man. i recently read a book that gave me some hope. it's by a guy named richard kale. he counsels people with anxiety disorders. he used to suffer from social anxiety and did it without doctors or meds. he gives out his email address for people to talk to him and takes hundreds of emails a day. talk to him. his email is richard.e.kale@gmail.com. he's really smart and the book was really good.

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kallik · Posted: Sun August 26, 2007 Post subject:

Please don't harm yourself. It says in the Bible that you are worth, "more than the whole world." That being said, I've lived with sa for 45 years, but only started working on CBT type therapy for the last five. I used to hate to eat in front of people, talk to people, talk on the telephone, write a check in front of people, walk by strangers, the list just goes on and on. The only thing I've found that changed me, is, facing my fears on a regular basis, feeling the fear and anxiety, but doing it anyway! Do I do it with perfection? No. I stuttered, or got red in the face, and felt foolish, a lot, but I have a mantra that I tell myself when insecurity thoughts try to intrude, and that is simply, "I don't care." Slowly, but surely, I've convinced myself that I truely, "don't care" what people think. It has taken time and effort. Most things do. I wish I had started a long time ago. You just learn with age that it doesn't matter what others think about you. It sounds trite, but you have to love yourself first. Basically, I am confronting the lies I used to believe about myself, and I challenge them. It will seem like nothing is happening, that your progress is at a snail's pace, but you have to remember that it took years for you to become this way. I hope this helps you. Don't ever give up! Don't ever lose hope!