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Josh Site Admin

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Posted: Sun February 18, 2007 Post subject: |
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I had a door to door sales job once. It was horrible.
I think that IT jobs would be good since all you have to do is sit in front of a computer. _________________ Read the advertisement rules:
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Angie Calm Regular

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Posted: Fri March 09, 2007 Post subject: |
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First of all I'm just so relieved to find a site like this. I don't have anyone to talk to about this kind of stuff.
I had a horrible time trying to find a job. I put in tons of applications, and went to interviews, but I could never get hired because I was, "too shy and timid." When I finally found a place that hired me, I only lasted there two months before I freaked out, and had a panic attack on the drive over. I was so embarrassed that I quit. I did force myself to quit in person though instead of over the phone.
I'm currently still finding courage to get back out there, and try again. I just really don't want the same thing to happen again. |
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Josh Site Admin

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Posted: Fri March 09, 2007 Post subject: |
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Wow sorry to hear you've gone through tough times Keep at it though because each time you try you are gaining more experience on how to deal with those situations.
| Quote: | | I put in tons of applications, and went to interviews, but I could never get hired because I was, "too shy and timid." | How could they tell this from the interview?
| Quote: | | When I finally found a place that hired me, I only lasted there two months before I freaked out, and had a panic attack on the drive over. |
2 months is still better nothing. What caused your panic attack? |
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Angie Calm Regular

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| Josh wrote: | Wow sorry to hear you've gone through tough times Keep at it though because each time you try you are gaining more experience on how to deal with those situations.
| Quote: | | I put in tons of applications, and went to interviews, but I could never get hired because I was, "too shy and timid." | How could they tell this from the interview?
| Quote: | | When I finally found a place that hired me, I only lasted there two months before I freaked out, and had a panic attack on the drive over. |
2 months is still better nothing. What caused your panic attack? |
Thank you!
I was quiet. I was basically mumbling through the entire interview because I was so nervous. It was just a plain bad interview. I'm still mildly humiliated when I think about it...
I'm not quite sure what caused my panic attack. I just dreaded going back there. I keep thinking that people dislike or even hate me. I sort of overanalyze everything. That was probably a big factor. |
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Josh Site Admin

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Posted: Thu March 15, 2007 Post subject: |
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I really wonder how employers judge you in an interview. One of my friends got invited to some cocktail party/meeting as part of the job interview process for an actuarial consulting firm. He had to mingle with the employers to sell himself. The purpose of the party was to see who was good enough to get interviewed. In the party he mingled but he didn't get the interview and his feedback was that he wasn't funny enough . Weird. |
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essco Terrified Newbie

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For me,I can find work.I just can't keep a job.I can't relax,my mind is overanalyzing everything.I sit in front of a computer all day so I have alot of time to think.What I have been doing lately is avoiding eye contact with my co-workers.Alot of people don't like it,but I am relaxed alittle bit.I am not worried about what they think.
Alot of people in the workforce need medications.Some people on 3 or 4 medications.It is not easy.I dont use any.I just drink.Thats my medication. |
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Josh Site Admin

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Posted: Mon March 19, 2007 Post subject: |
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Good work in finding a job. It's better than many.
I also have a job but the problem is that it's not the job I want to be in. I've spent so much time studying at university (commerce degree) that I want a job that has something related to my degree. The problem is that the competition is so hard. |
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iPlume Calm Regular

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Posted: Mon March 26, 2007 Post subject: |
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| Josh wrote: | I had a door to door sales job once. It was horrible.
I think that IT jobs would be good since all you have to do is sit in front of a computer. |
not for me, my head just goes blank, i had to leave my job because i just couldent cope with all the noise and people around me, the talking on the phone part wasent so bad its just face to face situtations i find hard to deal with. |
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Josh Site Admin

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Posted: Mon March 26, 2007 Post subject: |
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| I work at a cafe at the moment. The only thing I don't like is criticism from customers. I am so sensitive to criticism that I end up thinking about one negative remark long after it has happened. |
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PHD86 Anxious Poster

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Wow - a topic that actually specifically relates to my problem.
Having not done what I set out to do when I left school 3 years ago and nothing since - everyday I wake up with this feeling that is soul-destroying.
With 6 Highers including As in Accounting, Maths and Physics (not bragging, seriously), the Accounting and Finance degree at Uni was I think well suited to me. Obviously, I didn't go as my anxiety as well as SA was out of control, and at 17 (going on 15) that was especially hard.
I had everything panned out too with regards as to how I would climb the career ladder and achieve all the things I'd always dreamed of.
But I suppose the fact that this hadn't happened make a helluva lotta sense - when I was in school I basically refused to take any part-time job that involved dealing with customers over a counter which is ironic as I ended up doing that working on a turnstile at Peterhead Football Club (although this was not how the job was advertised).
I get so bummed out watching The Apprentice - seeing all those go-getters going out there and applying there ideas in practice with little hesitation. I'm so jealous of them - I want what they want.  |
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DS Calm Regular

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| essco wrote: | For me,I can find work.I just can't keep a job.I can't relax,my mind is overanalyzing everything.I sit in front of a computer all day so I have alot of time to think.What I have been doing lately is avoiding eye contact with my co-workers.Alot of people don't like it,but I am relaxed alittle bit.I am not worried about what they think.
Alot of people in the workforce need medications.Some people on 3 or 4 medications.It is not easy.I dont use any.I just drink.Thats my medication. |
Sitting and thinking doesn't do anything. It causes more anxiety. If you go out and stay busy with things, you'll forget about it. Get off the computer and go out there. |
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PHD86 Anxious Poster

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| George wrote: | | It took me great effort to get my first job. In fact I delayed a lot of stuff because of anxiety. I delayed getting a job and drivers license until I turned 20 (I'm 21). I got nagged by parents non-stop. All conversations led to them telling me to get a job. I didn't want to talk to them during that time. I tried as best I could to be as little a burden I could on everyone, but it didn't help. I eventually exploded and broke part of my computer desk off and they got off my back a little while. Then it started up again and I told them I was suicidal and then they backed up totally and let me choose the right time to get a job. I got a job probably a year later, the job was terrible and I quit it in two days. All the mental progress I went through up until those two days were totally erased. I became suicidal the first day on the job. I quit the morning of the third day. I felt like I had let both myself and my mom down so I filled out an application to a retail store and got the job, I was freaking out about this job too, but at least at this job I had very nice people to work with. I had to learn a lot of new skills and I have to sell things. I never would have imagined I would be trying to convince people to buy stuff. I'm still at the same job and as long as it stays tolerable I'll not quit. |
It'd be great if I can hear again from you George because as it happens, I'm in almost the same position.
I've postponed from driving and work for 3 years or so since leaving school but my big problem is feeling awful about the time gone before and what I tell people.
In the beginning, I thought the time out (however long it would be) would be beneficial for me, but after 3 years I can't seem to think that way.
It's scary how there seems to be there are spooky similarities between each other's stories on this board. |
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Biggie14 Anxious Poster

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| DS wrote: | | essco wrote: | For me,I can find work.I just can't keep a job.I can't relax,my mind is overanalyzing everything.I sit in front of a computer all day so I have alot of time to think.What I have been doing lately is avoiding eye contact with my co-workers.Alot of people don't like it,but I am relaxed alittle bit.I am not worried about what they think.
Alot of people in the workforce need medications.Some people on 3 or 4 medications.It is not easy.I dont use any.I just drink.Thats my medication. |
Sitting and thinking doesn't do anything. It causes more anxiety. If you go out and stay busy with things, you'll forget about it. Get off the computer and go out there. |
I think we all wish that what you said was easier said than done.
As a 14 year old I'm still pondering my career choice. Since I am good at English, I have been thinking of a career in journalism, but I don't know how SA could possibly affect that |
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DS Calm Regular

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Posted: Fri June 15, 2007 Post subject: |
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Jesus 'effin christ.. 14?
The only thing you should be worrying about is how to get to the next gym leader in Pokemon Pearl or how you can stay up and watch the boob channels without your mom knowing.
Career choice? HA! Don't worry so much. Worry about that when you're.. oh.. 22? 23? |
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Shyguy36 Terrified Newbie

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| There are some good meds your doctor can give you to help with interviews. Mine gave me some but I can't remember the name of it. Lorazapam or something like that I think. Anyways you take it 30 mins before your interview and it does wipe out anxiety for awhile. I have found that it helps alot. Unfortunately I don't have any left and need to go get another prescription for it. You can't take it while working though as it makes you tired but it can help you get your foot in the door. |
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