I've struggled with being unpopular my entire life. I remember being bullied and ostracized even as young as 4 years old. I've never been able to understand why. I've always had a very difficult time making friends-from elementary to high, my closest friends were actually some of the cruelest people I dealt with. Whenever I tried to confront them, they said I was being "dramatic" and if I wasn't such an idiot, they wouldn't treat me like they do.
In college, it got a little better, but I've never had close friends like I've wanted. Since then, my social situation has also deteriorated. People never call or text me, or message me in any way. When I post things on Facebook on my wall, they get ignored.
I tried asking someone I've been casual friends with for a couple of years why I'm so unpopular. He says it's because I'm "negative"-that my negative attitude pushes people away. But that doesn't make any sense... people don't notice or like me better even when I'm positive!
It makes even LESS sense, because some of the most popular people I know post REALLY negative statuses. One girl went on a huge rant about Valentine's Day, and about the struggles of getting over her ex-bf.... and she get over 30 comments! EVERYTHING she posts, negative or positive, gets attention. People constantly comment on her pictures and tell her how sexy and fun she is.
It doesn't matter what I post, negative or positive, I still get ignored. If I disappeared tomorrow, no one would even notice.
I don't understand what I'm doing wrong. Am I just doomed to be unpopular? I try to be friendly and kind, and willing to do things for people.... but nobody seeks me out, and if I contact them, I feel like they'll see that I'm needy. What can I do?