Social Anxiety Forums

acidic · Terrified Newbie Joined: 27 May 2008 Posts: 6

I talked to my school counselor and told her I had social anxiety disorder and she told my parents and my dad got really pissed at me, which made me really really upset because I was just trying to ask for help and he completely shot me down and... ahgkadfhgkdfg.
My mom talked to me, she was more supportive but neither really understood. My dad thinks I'm just introverted and my mom thinks I'm just shy.
Yesterday I had a doctor's appointment and we talked a little and he recommended two psychologists, and my dad said he'd call one of them... so far I don't know how far this is going to get...

But anyway, my dad is still convinced that this is some stupid crap I read on the internet and thought "oh, that is so me!" and started to act that way, too. He just thinks all I have is OCD/OCPD.

aghaghaghugh.

I've been experiencing symptoms and I've had panic attacks before I even heard of social anxiety. But my parents just won't believe me!

I DON'T CARE WHAT THE HELL IT'S CALLED ANYMORE. I WANT IT TO GO AWAY.

So what, maybe I am just being stupid and gullible and I'm just obsessive, then what part of me is real?!

And my dad says that if I have it on my record a "whole realm of possibilities will be closed" to me. Yeah, and if I don't do anything, no possibilities will be open to me.

He says that it's not like I'm trying to kill myself or I cut myself or I'm doing drugs or getting pregnant or stealing or whatever.
But then again he doesn't know how much I think about killing myself and how if I had the chance I would have quite a while ago and he doesn't know how much I do cut myself and... ajkghadkhgdfg

rantrantrant I am frustrated.

I just don't want to end up like my dad. All he does is sit there and pity himself and then he gets worse. He could have gotten rid of his problems, or at least improved them, a looong time ago, but no, he chose not to do anything. I want to do something.[/i]

update:
my dad took me to a doctor and now a therapist and he still doesn't believe I have social anxiety but he's only doing it because "I'm fourteen and I don't know anything yet." Okay.

Friendly · Terrified Newbie Joined: 14 Jun 2008 Posts: 5

Hi , i'm new here . It sounds to me like your dad probably does'nt understand but he might be afraid of anything that sounds like a mental health problem , if that's what social anxiety is classified as . It's nothing to be afraid or annoyed about . I grew out of a hell of a lot of it since i was young . Trouble is , i don't know if you're like me but although the unpleasant feelings are intense i don't think people see them from the outside anywhere near like we feel them on the inside . I don't get them so bad now but i will never forget how awful they were when i was young . I have every sympathy with you because it's a horrible thing . Try not to get upset that your dad does'nt understand or appreciate how serious it is . I think because we don't like to seem weak or different around others we learn to relax the muscles on the outside so that the bad nerves are never visible . I think a lot of people might do this . It's a learned response and i think because of that it's a thing that we will be alone with a lot but we are alone a lot in life .

Please don't get upset . Have hope that you will get better in time , as you grow older and try to grit your teeth now to get through this awful time . It must be terrible 4 you . Best wishes .

freakamidget · Calm Regular Joined: 29 Mar 2007 Posts: 103

Hey **** hell this is exactly what happened to me. My parents didnt thinks social anxiety was real so thats why i'm still stuck with it today. My mum said it was being a teenager and apart of growing up and just some stupid idea that was imported from America. My dad is more supportive but not enough.
All I can suggest is printing out loads of sheets from the internet about social anxiety and going throught it with them. Thats what i did but they didnt listen. Maybe yours might?
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