Social Anxiety Forums

Tootsie · Anonymous

I have social anxiety which i developed from my clinical depression. I am seeing a psychologist and he is helping a lot but last night I went to a friends grad party and I found myself constantly watching the door and seeing all the people who came in and the more the came the more sick I got. I felt like I was so small and just wanted to leave. I had to leave because I was about to vomit and as soon as I left I felt better I felt like I wasn't even there. has anyone felt like this and overcame it? how do you overcome such a strong feeling? please help

Incognita · Anonymous

I have very bad anxiety as a symptom of having Asperger Syndrome. Public and social situations are extremely difficult for me because of all the commotion and noise. I am a "door-watcher" as well. There are a lot of social functions I miss out on. I did much better working with a therapist who taught me a process called cognitive behavioral therapy. Ask your psychologist about it. For me, being treated by the right psychiatrist helped as well as the meds I took helped me to better participate in my treatment. It'll never be perfect, but it is better than it was. Best of luck.

Chloe · Anonymous

Hi, I know how you feel. I have social anxiety also. It started when I was little and just gradually got worse. I started to see a therapist for my depression and she told me that I had social anxiety disorder. I started taking anti-depressants which helps some. But, they do have medicine just for social anxiety which might help you. Good luck.

Amosun · Anonymous

ive been there. I was the asss at school, the ones that all the other kids threw things at, had to eat alone at lunch while they mocked me, got tormented daily with things stuck to my clothes and in my hair i was molested during that same time, lost my grandfather, moved 600 miles from anyone i new... yeah it can do that to you.

anyway. I got over it because i got sick of never going anywhere. I got sick of feeling worthless and feeling judged and trapped and out of control and venerable. Sick of being hurt and scared and scarred and unheard and not understood.

I just decided that i was going to BE a friend to everyone i could, not because i needed them, but because i was worth something and they needed me, they just didnt know it.

You can take medication and talk to professionals, but until YOU decide inside yourself that you're going to STOP reacting with anxiety and start reacting with friendliness you wont do anything but take one step forward and three steps back.

At some point you either accept that you will end up a sad pathetic shut in, or you go out and realize you can contribute to other peoples lives.

I suffered from depression on and off for years. I know how much is sucks. But when it all comes down to it you realize that its selfish to feel so sorry for yourself and your situation when there are so many people who are miserable out there with no one to turn to.

I started helping out at youth groups and churches, and community events and making myself useful instead of sitting around and thinking i was useless.

Self esteme is easy to gain, you just have to go out there and live for someone else every now and then.

Also, i stopped trying to make people like me. that helped a lot with the social anxiety. I cant control people, i dont have to. i found a man who needed my love, and i married him, i think that sealed the deal. Not that marriage is the answer for anything, but in my case it finalized everything i had been trying to prove to myself. That i was worth the world to someone.

Jerryv · Terrified Newbie Joined: 26 Feb 2007 Posts: 3

Your post was the only one that seem positive about treatment, i'm about to go and try and see someone this week and after reading a lot of the stuff on this forum i'm almost thinking to myself what is the point?

I truly do hope that something can be done for me because this is no way to live . . . .

Would you say that things are a lot better for you?